I made the above Mother’s Day video a few years back. I’ve posted it here so you can share it with others, if you wish. To show it at a church or other public gathering, click here.
Mom was twenty when I was born—twenty times as old as me. But when I turned ten, I suddenly realized, she was only three times as old as me–and when I turned twenty she would be only two times as old as me. “Soon,” I thought, “she’ll be younger than me!” (Math wasn’t my strong suit.) By the time I got to college I’d finally figured out that Mom would always be exactly twenty years older than me. Which meant she would always have twenty years more life experience than me.
It was like hiking with a tall friend: You come to a fork in the road, behind which is a hill. You can’t see what the two paths do beyond that hill, so how can you choose which one to take? You ask a tall friend who can see beyond the hill. Despite the fact that she was only 5’2″, Mom was my “tall friend.”
Still, she was experiencing new things too. When I was six, she was learning how to be the mother of a six-year-old. When I was sixteen, she was learning how to survive being the mother of a sixteen-year-old. Not to mention all the other stuff life throws at women.
My perspective changed when I realized Mother’s Day wasn’t just a celebration of who my mom was, it was a celebration of who she was becoming. The only thing that remained the same from start to finish was her love. And when she passed, I remembered that no matter what changes she was going through, she always loved me.
That inspired my short play I Always Knew You Loved Me, as well as the short film version above about a trio of young adults and their seemingly-unrelated Mom stories. To read or perform the play, click here. And again, to share the video publicly, click here.
I love you, Mom. Every version of you. And I’m glad I never caught up with you. I mean, who wants to be older than their mom, right?
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