“A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers.” ~Ruth Bell Graham
Have you talked to your co-forgiver lately?
40 years ago today I met the woman I would marry.* Of course, I had no idea at the time. In fact I was trying very hard to commit to a sweet girl I’d been dating for a long while when I met this other woman named Trudy. Yes, she was beautiful, but she was also complicated, and who needs that, right? Apparently I did. “I keep thinking about her,” I confessed in my journal. The sweet girl faded away and the complicated one came more and more into focus. For two years Trudy and I loved and misunderstood each other. And then we broke up. And then we forgave each other. And then we broke up. And then we forgave each other. And then we became best friends. Because love is like that. Messy. Complicated. And wonderful.
*P.S. It was January 13th, actually, but on a Thursday not a Friday (whew!).