40 Years Ago Today

“A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers.” ~Ruth Bell Graham

Have you talked to your co-forgiver lately?

 40 years ago today I met the woman I would marry.* Of course, I had no idea at the time. In fact I was trying very hard to commit to a sweet girl I’d been dating for a long while when I met this other woman named Trudy. Yes, she was beautiful, but she was also complicated, and who needs that, right? Apparently I did. “I keep thinking about her,” I confessed in my journal. The sweet girl faded away and the complicated one came more and more into focus. For two years Trudy and I loved and misunderstood each other. And then we broke up. And then we forgave each other. And then we broke up. And then we forgave each other. And then we became best friends. Because love is like that. Messy. Complicated. And wonderful.

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*P.S. It was January 13th, actually, but on a Thursday not a Friday (whew!).

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93 Responses to 40 Years Ago Today

  1. aparna12 says:

    Happy Wedding Anniversary.

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  2. rwfrohlich says:

    January 13th is apparently the day when God chooses to do good things. He brought you and Trudy together that day according to His purposes. And forty years before your memorable day, He chose for me to be born. That event may not mean much to the world (who, beside my Mom, even noticed?), but it meant a lot to me. May God continue to richly bless your union!

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  3. beth says:

    Happy anniversary!

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  4. Wynne Leon says:

    That is awesome!! I love this reflection and personally applaud the choice of complicated over sweet. Way more interesting…

    Happy met-anniversary!! πŸ™‚ ❀

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  5. Happy anniversary! She has the magic.

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  6. It was August of 1973, 50 years ago, I met my co-forgiver. We were in college and he was a Math major in the marching band, and I was a music major taking Calculus, a Science Fiction seminar, and a computer programming course…and he just kept showing up in every area I was interested in. He was fun to talk to, but he wasn’t what I was looking at for a boyfriend. Well, until he was. We dated for 2 years, then he graduated and I changed schools, but we were engaged for 2 years. 5 kids, 4 weddings, and countless funerals, and (I think) 3 arguments later, we work in offices in our home across the hall from each other, and we can’t imagine any other way things could be better.

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  7. Carolina Mom says:

    Happy Wedding Anniversary! πŸŽ‰

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  8. Caroll says:

    Congratulations for 40 years of love and personal and spiritual growth!

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  9. Linda Lee Adams/Lady Quixote says:

    ❀ ❀ ❀ Happy 40! ❀ ❀ ❀

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  10. Happy 40 years of keeping on your toes!

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  11. Happy for-life anniversary! Wonderful!

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  12. I couldn’t agree more there needs to be two really, really good forgivers involved to get that kind of longevity together. Congrats!

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  13. The Hinoeuma says:

    Forty years of marriage…that is amazing.

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  14. All the best on your anniversary

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  15. Friday the 13th isn’t so bad. But congratulations on 40 years! God bless!

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  16. Oh, that’s awesome Mitch. So happy for you. Congratulations on 40 years being together!

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  17. Paula Light says:

    Aww πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’•

    I love a good romance story πŸ’–

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  18. atimetoshare.me says:

    Congrats, Mitch and Trudy. We’re going. on 59 this year. I always thought it sounded so romantic to grow old together. I thought it would be a lot more fun. Just kidding. we have a lot of fun together.

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  19. Congratulations to you and Trudy! 40 years is a wonderful milestone. Relationships seem to be be disposable – like everything else – nowadays.

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  20. Lisa Beth says:

    Wonderful testimony of love! Happy anniversary and many more! 🎊

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  21. Forty years of togetherness is a great thing. Happy Anniversary!

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  22. An Audience of One says:

    So sweet! ❀️

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  23. How awesome. Happy Anniversary!

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  24. Mr. Ramdolfi says:

    Congrats on your 40th Anniversary, Mitch! Wishing you many more decades with your co-forgiver! πŸ˜„

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  25. Nothing better than a good relationship!

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  26. Awww. Super sweet. Happy anniversary. πŸ™‚

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  27. K.L. Hale says:

    What a beautiful day to remember! πŸ’•It’s so good to be here at your β€œplace”. It’s always filled with wisdom (two forgivers~perfect!)!

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  28. trE says:

    Aww. This is such a beautiful thing. Happy Anniversary, Mitch! πŸ™ŒπŸΎπŸ‘πŸΎπŸŽ‰

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  29. Janice Reid says:

    True, love can be complicated…Happy Anniversary!

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  30. What a beautiful love story and a rich treasure for your descendants!

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  31. Mia Winhertt says:

    It is real stories like these of they who made it that make the younger ones like us still hold on to hope. Really happy for you two! Happy wedding anniversary to both of you! ❀

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  32. Invisibly Me says:

    Awww Happy Meeting Anniversary! πŸ’œ I couldn’t remember the date of the guy I met that I fell in love with, and it makes me wish I’d have written it down. I remember the place and what happened, just no idea of the date. Not that it matters anymore as I’ve not seen him in a decade, but still.

    I just wanted to say how beautiful your post is. It also gives hope to all the complex women out there! πŸ˜‰ I’m so glad you follow your instincts and went for what felt right, rather than what may have seemed more logical.

    Caz xx

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  33. You don’t let the blessings from God fail-not your acting, not your writing, and not your relationship with the love of your life. Congratulations, Mitch.

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  34. Very Happy Anniversary wishes to you and Trudy! πŸ’ž

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  35. lorbenka says:

    Awww Happy Anniversary!!

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  37. Nancy Ruegg says:

    Congratulations, Mitch and Trudy! You are so right: the willingness to forgive is paramount to a long, satisfying marriage. / Steve and I also started out as friends. I think that’s the best way to begin. We realized we enjoyed each other’s company before any romantic involvement occurred.

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  38. Aw! Yes!! Co-forgivers! Amen! And each others’ sidekick comedian!!

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  39. Oops! I sent that too soon! Congratulations on 40 years together!! A momentous occasion indeed!

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  40. Happy (Meeting) anniversary, Mitch! Ruth Bell Graham is so right about two good forgivers making a happy marriage!

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  41. Thotaramani says:

    Congrats Mitch and Trudy for 40 years of togetherness. May you stay happy friendly ♾️ and forever. My wishes to you and family. Have a great year after year. When I go through your posts, you express every thing with pure heart.πŸ‘πŸ»πŸŽ‡

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  42. Jennie says:

    Congratulations on 40 years. Steve and I just hit 47 this month. Yikes! Love the photos!

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