Our Unnatural Love

It’s my wife Trudy’s birthday. We celebrated with dinner and a concert last night and will continue celebrating this weekend. And then, two weeks from now, we’ll celebrate our engagement anniversary—the day we chose to do something completely unnatural, to be exclusively committed to each other for as long as we lived.

It’s natural for humans to seek out multiple partners. Enlightened experts like to point this out, along with the fact that the next two most intelligent species, great apes and dolphins, are wildly promiscuous—so it’s clearly natural for us to be so as well.

And in truth, as a young man I was very promiscuous; when my hormones rang, I answered the call. And yet, at the same time, I was anxiously seeking out the “reason” for my existence.

That’s not natural either.

Humans are the only species on earth that feel called to be something beyond the natural. There’s a half-tuned receiver inside us that demands to be fully tuned in; and when we do, it calls us to go beyond the natural to the supernatural, not in the sense of ghostly or occult, but in the sense of surpassing our natural animal behavior (the Latin word “super” literally means to go beyond or above).

The most obvious way in which we exercise our supernaturalness, is monogamy. True, we’re not the only monogamous animals—wolves, swans, and many others, even cockroaches and flatworms, are naturally monogamous. But we are (if and when we choose to be) the only supernaturally monogamous creatures.

And it doesn’t end there. Humans are (if and when they choose to be) the only supernaturally peaceful creatures (sadly, Vladimir Putin is behaving all too naturally right now). Humans are also the only supernaturally forgiving creatures. And ultimately, they are the only supernaturally gracious creatures, grace, in its original sense, meaning undeserved favor or love — if and when they choose to be.

And so, exclusively loving my wife is just one of the many supernatural behaviors I’m committed to. And Trudy has the same weird preoccupation. No, it doesn’t come naturally to us, and yet we persist. Odd, aren’t we?

And yet we wouldn’t have it any other way.

About mitchteemley

Writer, Filmmaker, Humorist, Thinker-about-stuffer
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71 Responses to Our Unnatural Love

  1. ejstoo says:

    Happy Birthday!

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  2. leorizo says:

    Happy birthday! 🎉🎂

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  3. Congratulations and have a truly beautiful day Trudy. Yes to be committed to one and only one is a God supported beautiful thing. Roy and I have appreciated each others respect and commitment for 44 years. Much learnt🤣🤣🤣❤❤

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  4. Enjoy your birthday celebrations!

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  5. Gail Perry says:

    Happy birthday, Trudy. My mom would have been 112 today. Mitch, thanks for continuing to model all the good stuff!

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  6. Happy birthday to your beautiful wife! Great read, too. So true…

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  7. trE says:

    Aww. I love all the photos! A very Happy Birthday to Trudy! 🥳

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  8. Lisa Beth says:

    What a beautiful wife! Ok, beautiful couple too. Today Bob and I celebrate the day we met, 26 years ago.
    May you both celebrate and enjoy many more together. ❤

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  9. All the best to you and Trudy, Mitch. It is great to see a couple committed to each other.

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  10. aaordona says:

    Many blessings to your wife on her birthday, Mitch and blessings to both of you on your anniversary.

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  11. murisopsis says:

    I pray you have a supernaturally blessed celebration of Trudy’s birthday and the date of your engagement!! Seems monogamy isn’t the natural way nor is having only one God – the trend seems to be to have lots of little gods. Makes me wonder if we have God and then elevate money, property, cars, designer clothes to little god status??

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  12. capost2k says:

    A friend once told me, “Every woman is beautiful if she is loved.” And so we see in the beauty of your wife your love for her!
    ❤️&🙏, c.a.

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  13. Enjoy the birthday celebrations!

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  14. Beautifully put Mitch. It is worth every sacrifice.

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  15. Wonderful message, Mitch. God bless and keep preaching truth!

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  16. beth says:

    Happy birthday!

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  17. Manu says:

    Happy Birthday to your beautiful wife. And blessings for the upcoming engagement anniversary in a couple of weeks.

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  18. Michele Lee says:

    A naturally beautiful couple, you two are. Enjoy your celebrations! 💕

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  19. What a beautiful explanation of our human monogamy leanings! Such a meaningful way to show your love and commitment to one another. Happy birthday to Trudy and happy engagement anniversary to you both! Bob and I have been married 41 years and have enjoyed every moment of our commitment to one another and to God. Thanks for the goodness found here!

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  20. usfman says:

    To me, supernatural means transcending our animal urges for something more spiritually worthy of our time. Happy Anniversary.

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  21. I guess this is what my wife says when she says it’s “work” being married to me. Ha, ha. We’re still at it though. It may be the toughest job we’ve ever had, but it’s one that we both would never trade. We too wouldn’t have it any other way. Great post. Happy celebrations and Congratulations.

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  22. Erika says:

    Happy Birthday and congratulations to both of you. What a party month!

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  23. Ann Coleman says:

    Sometimes marriages are work, but they are so very worth it! We were just out to dinner with a few other couples we have known for forty years, and we’re saying how lucky we are that we are all still with our original spouses in happy marriages. Happy birthday to your lovely wife!

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  24. Happy Anniversary to a truly odd couple – odd for all the right reasons!

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  25. K.L. Hale says:

    Mitch, this is beautiful. Happy belated birthday to Trudy. And soon to be engagement anniversary! Your unnatural love between one another is an example of what real love looks like and should be! ❤️

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  26. I love the way you write about your wife and your relationship with tenderness and humor. Makes for a long and healthy marriage. Happy Birthday, Trudy!

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  27. Matilda Novak says:

    Happy Birthday to your beautiful Trudy!
    i love the way you write about your wife and the love you share….
    It does my heart good.
    i share a birthday with my beloved twin, (March 1st) and we celebrate All Month Long.
    Blessings on you both.

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  28. Anita says:

    Happy birthday celebration, all the bests.

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  29. CattleCapers says:

    Congratulations on finding a great relationship.

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  30. gpavants says:


    Wonderful. Enjoy your time together.

    In Christ,


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  31. Happy birthday! And my husband and I are odd as well. Although this is our second marriage, for both of us, we have finally been given a partner from the good Lord above that feels the same way about monogamy the other does. What a true blessing.

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  32. Congratulations🎉

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  33. Beautiful explenaton

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  34. Carla says:

    Happy Belated Birthday to Trudy. Lovely post Mitch.

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