Manipulator (careerattraction.com)
Thought for the Week
“Have you ever manipulated another person for your own selfish ends, and then felt remorse? What did you do next? Did you fix that bridge? Or did you burn it?” ~The Wishing Map
Mitch Teemley 
Thanks Mitch! Would that all adopt this loving practice! Not my will, Jesus, but Yours be done!
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Amen, Jon!
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Nice post! Thanks!
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My privilege, José.
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Amen to that, Mitch!
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Love this message!
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Now even when I’m just chatting with a friend cos I’m bored,I feel manipulative moreso when I tell them stuff like I’m insecure. I don’t know what a healthy friendship feels like, can you help out some more. Thanks.
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Hi Emilly. I’m not a psychologist, but I don’t think chatting with a friend because you’re bored or telling them you’re insecure is necessarily using them. Be honest with them: tell them you’re bored or feeling insecure, so they can decide for themselves how to respond. They may just want you to do that; sharing our insecurities with the right close friend can make them feel valued and trusted. They may just be bored, too, or they may be busy right now and appreciate your letting them know it’s OK to talk some other time; they’ll appreciate your showing them that respect. More typically, though, using others is manipulating them to do what you want, even though you know it may not be in their best interest. Approach friendships prayerfully, trying to put them first, and knowing that the best friends will respond by treating you the same way.
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Thanks for sharing,that’s definitely helpful. 😃
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Glad to hear that, Emilly.
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I think everyone tries the manipulation thing when they are young but realise that the remorse and regret about doing such a thing is too much to bear (well, most people. I am guessing others get quite skilled at it). Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
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Well said!
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Thanks for the reminder.
“In fact, ultimately our human experience is communal, it can’t be lived alone.” ❤️
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Excellent and a great life lesson there!
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Excellent!
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Love this.. Thanks Mitch…
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“Does anyone ever actually wish on their death bed that they’d manipulated more people, gotten their way more often?” such a good, and thought-provoking, question! Thanks for this post, Mitch 🙂
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Mitch,
When working with fellow creatives I often pray it is for the Lord’s glory and their benefit. I always am concerned not to use people.
In Christ,
Gary
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Good.
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Mitch,
Hope all is good! Thanks for bring such a blessing and inspiration. The Lord bless the works of your hands!
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Thank you, Gary, you too.
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It’s like the saying. “Love people and use things.”
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Exactly!
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I think those who are in the habit of manipulating others don’t see it as such and don’t find anything wrong with it.
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