The Pain We Feel, the Pain We Cause

796509-d071d656-e552-11e3-aae6-8a781d1cd673A high percentage of abusers were themselves abused as children.

We all inherit legacies of brokenness, “the sins of the father.”

Even those of us who are from “good families.” Yes, even our children.dad-comforts-son

God calls each of us to break these patterns and to set up new ones rooted in his goodness (Romans 12:2). Our world needs to heal.

And it needs to begin with us.

About mitchteemley

Writer, Filmmaker, Humorist, Thinker-about-stuffer
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16 Responses to The Pain We Feel, the Pain We Cause

  1. blmaluso says:

    Very true words! When we humble ourselves before the Lord, He illuminates the darkness residing in our own hearts, and heals us from the inside out. If we are truly concerned with the state of the culture and the world around us, we will be the change and be the love we are looking for in the world.

    Blessings to you and your family!
    Bernadette

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  2. Roos Ruse says:

    Reblogged this on Whats Next and commented:
    More from the mind of Mitch:

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  3. Ufuomaee says:

    I’m writing a new series on this topic. It’s actually called Broken, but am yet to publish it. Your post was timely for me, thanks for sharing 🙂

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  4. My late father was severely abused by his father, once beaten so badly his father took him over to another county’s hospital so that the local church congregation wouldn’t hear about it. My father swore he would never abuse his children like that, and he didn’t–physically anyway. The poor man was filled with so much anger, I experienced emotional and verbal abuse all my life. When he abused alcohol the anger came to the surface in the form of mild to moderate physical abuse of myself and my mother as well. Perhaps because of his resolve to not abuse and the effort to stop the chain of abuse it ended with him. I don’t believe that any of my four children would say that they were physically or emotionally abused. I hope.

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  5. Your blogged words, if heeded, will promote a healthier world, Mitch.

    Indeed, “we all inherit legacies of brokenness…”. Sometimes the inflicted emotional and physical wounds bleed outward; e.g., when abused children bully their classmates, who come from well-adjusted homes. If left unchecked, the cycle of abuse twists and turns throughout society… going on… and on… and on…

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  6. So true! Well said Mitch!

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  7. I agree. God bless you. ^_^

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  8. Very true..if you don’t break the cycle then you’re a victim in more ways than one. I hate the idea of being.programmed, and not even knowing. Being on the receiving end of abuse can also give you compassion for others..its important to work out your pain without involving.other people..for me it’s what sets people apart in the end. 😊

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  9. Erika Kind says:

    It is scary how much we take over from what was burdening us and unconsciously pass on. Yes, we need to break the pattern and we can. It is a decision!

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  10. Mitch, It is a belief that a high percentage of abusers were themselves abused as children. However, there is not a high percentage. All the way back in 1989, this belief was being challenged. I quote, “Studies also now indicate that about one-third of people who are abused in childhood will become abusers themselves. This is a lower percentage than many experts had expected, but obviously poses a major social challenge. The research also confirms that abuse in childhood increases the likelihood in adulthood of problems ranging from depression and alcoholism to sexual maladjustment and multiple personality.” (New York Times, January, 1989)

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