Real Fatherhood

During self-introductions a college student of mine once boasted that he’d fathered 11 children by 11 different mothers.

I normally avoid judgmental statements.

Not this time.

“Do you support them?” I asked.

“Uh, no!” he said with a grin.

“Then you’re not a real father. You’re a child abuser.”

A period of awkward silence followed. Which normally bothers me.

Not this time.

Fatherhood is being there.

With your time.

With your heart.

With your paycheck.

When it’s convenient, and when it’s not.

To all of the real fathers out there: I celebrate you!

To all of those who are not: Man up and become real fathers!

About mitchteemley

Writer, Filmmaker, Humorist, Thinker-about-stuffer
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9 Responses to Real Fatherhood

  1. Lucie says:

    Boy, Mitch, I couldn’t agree more…..As a teacher, my philosophy was you couldn’t start EARLY enough to talk about “self responsibility” and “taking ownership for your thoughts and actions”…Integrity and responsibility are characteristics that need to be mentored with children from BIRTH, as far as I’m concerned…. 🙂 A Belated Happy Father’s Dad!!! And thank you for taking the time, patience and love to foster what I’m sure are “responsible people” in your life ( both IN and OUT of the classroom). 🙂

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  2. Erika Kind says:

    I guess that question was overdue for that young man.

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  3. afireplight says:

    Thanks so much. I really appreciate that.

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  4. lbeth1950 says:

    I hope he stopped at eleven. That’s disgusting. No one can have a relationship with eleven children with eleven mothers. There’s not that much time in a day to even talk to eleven women about eleven children.

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